Stoics and Uncertainty

As we emerge from the heat of another contentious election season, it’s easy to feel fatigued, disheartened, and unsure of how to rebuild the connections we’ve lost or strained in the process. Not only the political climate, with its division and acrimony, but recent natural disaster and great changes around us can leave us questioning the state of our relationships, our communities, and even ourselves. But, as we reflect on the challenges of the last few months, or even last few years, it’s important to remember the core values that sustain us. These timeless practices—rooted in stoic philosophy and human kindness—can offer us a path toward healing, understanding, and fearlessness in the face of uncertainty.

The Necessity for Human Connection

Human connection is essential, especially in times of crisis. We are social creatures by nature, and we thrive when we feel understood, seen, and supported.

The stoic philosopher Marcus Aurelius famously wrote, “What is not good for the hive, is not good for the bee.” This speaks to the interconnectedness of all people. While we may have different views, values, or priorities, we must recognize that we share a collective fate. Though it may be quite heavy to view it through this lens, it can also be one of great relief. Whether we are part of the same community, work in the same industry, or simply share the same country, our lives are intertwined. The strength of our connections determines the strength of our society.

So, how do we move forward and reconnect?

What is Radical Candor?

In a polarized world, honesty is crucial—but it must be paired with compassion. Radical candor, a concept popularized by Kim Scott, is about striking the balance between being direct and empathetic. It’s about caring enough to challenge each other while also showing genuine concern for one another’s well-being. In a time when genuine understanding feels scarce, adopting radical candor can be a game-changer.

Why Radical Candor Matters After an Election Cycle

After an election cycle, when emotions run high and we often feel misunderstood or misrepresented, radical candor helps to cut through the noise. It means engaging in tough conversations—whether with family members, coworkers, or friends—without vilifying the other person. Radical candor doesn’t shy away from conflict, but it approaches it with respect and a genuine desire to foster mutual understanding rather than division.

Listening with Empathy

The stoic philosopher Epictetus said, “We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak.” Radical candor encourages us not just to speak honestly but to listen with empathy. It reminds us that conversations aren’t about winning—they’re about connection. When we truly listen—not just hear—we open the door to meaningful dialogue and a better understanding of one another.

The Power of Giving Grace

One of the most transformative things we can do, both for ourselves and others, is to give grace—especially when it feels most difficult. Grace allows us to pause, take a deep breath, and recognize the shared humanity and fragility that exist among us. It doesn’t mean turning a blind eye to harm or avoiding challenges. Instead, it invites us to acknowledge our common imperfections and extend forgiveness, both to others and ourselves.

Seeing Humanity in Others

Grace encourages us to soften our judgments and understand that everyone carries their own experiences, fears, and vulnerabilities. It reminds us that no one is perfect. No matter our titles, backgrounds, or societal labels, we all fall short of our ideals sometimes. When we embrace grace, we open the door to dialogue and healing, moving away from bitterness and creating space for mutual understanding.

Stoicism and the Practice of Grace

In Stoicism, grace is reflected in the concept of amor fati—the love of fate. This philosophy encourages us to accept life as it is, even when it doesn’t align with our desires or expectations. Marcus Aurelius captures this beautifully: “The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way.”

By embracing grace, we learn to view challenges and disappointments as opportunities for growth. After an election, when tensions often run high, choosing grace allows us to see disagreements not as barriers but as chances to deepen our understanding of others and strengthen our connections.

The Stoic Perspective on Anxiety

The Stoics taught that while we can’t control external events, we have absolute control over how we respond to them. In The Enchiridion, Epictetus famously said, “Men are disturbed not by things, but by the views which they take of them.” This principle lies at the heart of Stoicism: while events themselves are neutral, it’s our perception of them that determines our emotional state.

Though we can’t control election outcomes or the actions of others, we have the power to choose how we engage with those outcomes, manage our emotions, and respond with intention rather than fear.

Focusing on What We Can Control

When we shift our focus to what we can control—our actions, our integrity, and how we show up for others—anxiety loses its grip. The Stoics believed that by acting with courage and integrity, we could rise above the anxiety and uncertainty that often accompany political and social upheaval.

Instead of dwelling on outcomes beyond our reach, we can channel our energy into fostering connections, making thoughtful choices, and living in accordance with our values. This emphasis on living in accordance with values may also be familiar to you if you are familiar with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). This not only helps us transcend fear but also strengthens our relationships and sense of purpose in times of turmoil.

Moving Forward: Embracing Connection, Honesty, Grace, and Fearlessness

In light of the recent election, it’s important that we not just survive these challenging times but use them as an opportunity to thrive. We have the power within us, we need not strive to win, but to understand. To piece together the woven fabric which binds us as humans and move towards empathy and compassion. To stand firm in the pillars of Stoicism that the great Romans before us built: Fear is often based on things outside of our control—release it by focusing on what you can control: your actions, responses, and relationships.

As we move forward in a divided world, let’s remember that change begins with us. We have the ultimate power to lead with empathy, speak with honesty, and approach life with courage and grace. In doing so, we not only heal ourselves but help heal the world around us.

Written by: Kristen Poppe, LCHMC-A, LCAS

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